Submitted by Minnesota2011 on Sun, 01/02/2011 - 19:34
Got an email from my sister Kate yesterday. She and her boss email me when she has had a good week. Her usual communication consists of questions on scheuling. Her way if coping with her life is trying to schedule every moment of her life. Of course, when things are over scheduled, it is hard for her to changher her plans. There has to be a very good reason for her to accept a change: illness, weather, or just plan being stong headed with her! As her sibling and only sibling I have learned to build a think skin with her and her demands. I find it immensely easier to say 'no' to her than our mother who is the 'enabler' of our family. She gives Kate everything she can. I understand my mom's reasoning: Kate has a tough life with her Autism and Cerebral Palsy and she wants to make Kate's life as rich as possible. True- agreed. However, because of her Autism we need ot be sure to set clear and structured boundries and stick to them. Through my mom's tendancies to be fragile with her decisions, Kate has figured out ways to break my mom's choices and get ones she wants. Or, maybe I am just mean...!
I made it in the top 47 Excellent Asperger's Support Blogs. Wow! I came across it by accident - http://www.medicalinsurance.org/47-excellent-aspergers-support-blogs/ I am #31. Even though most of my blogging is done here: http://parentingaspergers.blogspot.com/ I still do occasionally come back to see if any other blogs have new entries. My son actually started a new blog which if you are a kid with Asperger's you will probably want to follow. His link is: http://myviewofaspergers.blogspot.com/ I just had to add this new blog and will follow thru with another update with the twins. Thanks all for reading.
Submitted by Love my boys on Thu, 08/05/2010 - 16:59
I have a 3 year old son who has been diagnosed with Autism. He shows more characteristics of PDD but Autism is the diagnosis. I also have a 2month old son. My boys are the light of my life. I adore them so much. When I was pregnant with my second, I was pretty sure that I could manage the load in a way to where my toddler would not experience jealousy. I took the advice of some friends with two kids and continually try to include my oldest in most of the tasks dealing with the baby. However, things have not gone exactly as planned. What does go as planned when you have kids. My oldest really seems to love the baby. He is very affectionate and always wants to hug, kiss, and hold the baby. The problem is, he doesn't understand how to be gentle. He is not aggressive with the baby. He just gives very firm hugs and kisses which are a bit too rough for the baby. In turn, after telling him to be gentle several times, I find myself gently pulling my toddler to the other side of me which may appear as if I don't want him touching the baby. That's not the case.
my lil brother AGE 16 about to be 17 in OCT has been getting really bad melt downs lately and has also been howling and moaning and groaning and my dad says loosing coherency... i was wondering what might cause this? idk whats been going on, but everytime and i mean EVERYTIME he hears the word "NO" he starts melting till he gets what he wants.... we dont give it to him because we kno not to give in to his bad behavior... he's on several meds and he's been diagnosed with many disorders, i will say he's been diagnosed with ~ MR, Schitzophrenia, ADD~ and a lil bit more tht idk at this time... some of the meds he's on is ~Serequel, Ativan, Fluvoxomine, Intuniv, Invega, Vyvance~ and a lil more tht i dont know.... if you have any info for me that would be really greatfull
Here is one of my posts. It has become therapeutic for me to write about my experiences with both of my sons (one who is autistic and one who is not). Read my post. Tell me what you think. My blog is at http://raisingsucautistic.blogspot.com/
07-20-2010 I began these entries on the 18th of July and so far have 53 hits to my site. Fantastic! I am hoping that I can reach out to others (for example parents, relatives, friends of autistic children) and provide some source of support and education. If you know someone who is interested in hearing someone else's experiences, please tell them to come to my site and read, read, read.
Folks - I would really appreciate some blogger support on a project that needs PR. I too am a proud mama of a young man living with autism and I'm an equally proud mom of a young woman who veers more toward NT level of functioning. She is the "Sib Champion" in my world. Her needs must come to equal standing as those of her brother - she is his champion afterall. I started a nonprofit years ago to help care for the global needs of economically challenged families living with Autism (which includes an entire program dedicated to the academic, emotional, and recreational needs of Sibs) and I'm always looking for ways to keep the services going there (http://ihcenter.org/groups/bigskyfarm) - so here is one way I have decided to do it - write a fiction series for folks who enjoy a good adventure.
Submitted by sher202020 on Sat, 10/24/2009 - 12:26
My son with autism has 3 sisters. D is 21, T is 18, and MH is 11. They all live at home with us, and sometimes (well, who am I kidding? Most of the time) the dynamics can be downright crazy. The 2 eldest bicker and in-fight alot, and the youngest is usually embarrassed by her older brother and his disability. The most I ever had hoped for was that somehow, magically, they would all love each other and show kindness toward one another, but I wasn't sure how to bring that about. I grew up the eldest of 3, with 2 younger brothers, and we all fought and bickered, but we were never given any guidance about our relationships by my parents. It was either "Get along, or else!!" or my mother would be sad that we were fighting. We grew apart as we got older, and only now as middle-aged adults with families of our own are we getting to know each other, and yes, I'm happy to report, really love each other. Wow, I want this for my kids! But I don't want them to have to wait until they are grown to be close to each other.
Just wondering how helpful it is to send your autistic child to school with your typical kids? Anybody have experience with that or keeping their kids in separate schools.
My son is 6 years old is moderately mentally retarded and has autism. He is verbal, toilet trained, goes to ABA school that we are happy with. We have 2 typical children one of which will be ready for kindergarten in 2011. We'd like all our kids to go to the same school. There is a school district that might do a good job with him and would be good for our girls. However, the school does not have as many ABA trained folks and merely contracts from time to time to help out with certain issues. We would have to move into that school district because our current district had limited options for him.
