Last week my best buddy from my college days came down from Oregon to visit me. She showed off her 5 month-old baby boy, her first baby. Although she also has a delightful stepson who is in middle school. Anyway, she is in baby mode, a totally adoring mommy. She was making a list of pros and cons for having another baby.
It shocked me how different our lists were, with her leaning toward having another baby and me having decided, "NO, definitely NOT." My list pretty much consisted of fear of having another special needs child. I feel that one is almost more than we can handle. My friend's list was all "Pro-I want another baby, Con-lotta people in the world already, Pro-Got some baby gear already, Con-Pregnancy sucks." Her list seemed so happy, so naive, so carefree. I wish I could feel that way again.
On a happier note, she hadn't gotten a crib yet AND she was driving a van back to Oregon. It was cosmic meant-to-be FATE, that she, my soul-friend, ended up with Wyatt's crib and baby backpack. It made me unbelievably happy to be able to give her that crib. Having decided not to have another baby, I had just started getting rid of Wyatt's old things, and had given his bassinet away to a stranger just the week before.
My son gives me a hard time
My son gives me a hard time all the time about having no sibs, but my husband and I were afraid as well that we would have another one with autism and that we wouldn't be able to handle it. Still, he may have been a lot less lonely today if we had gone ahead and had another child. However, it would be kinda of pointless now.
We always wanted two
We always wanted two children but Marcel didnt come around until I was 38 & daddy was
48, our miracle baby~& proof that God has a sense of humor lol. We were married 19
years when he came into our lives. I wish he could have had an older sibling.
Like you, I am also
Like you, I am also terrified of having another special needs child. I worry that the next child will be lower functioning and worry about Michael regressing. Or worse, higher functioning and excels further than Michael at a younger age. I hate the thought of ever having to back burner Michael's needs. Or having to back burner another child because of my son's needs. Michael of course would LOVE a sibling. He loves babies with a passion, and is so protective over the baby next door. Who is a year old in a few days.
My neighbor wants another baby. She has two. She has lost them to state foster care twice in the last 12 months. She is not with anybody, but the father of her other two is unreliable. She was told by the state to find daycare, reliable, but she has not. She thinks she can rely on us neighbors...
Atta girl =)
Atta girl =)