Jacobsmom26's blog

Jacob has done so well so far starting the new school year. Last year he didn't talk to me about school and we had so much trouble with him the classroom concentrating on subjects. He would always tell me I don't know if at all when asked about his day. He comes home now and tells me all about second grade and his day. He tells me what activity he has done like music or art. He trys to tell me what he has learned in his new subject of Science. He loves science already so thats right up his ally. Yesterday he wrote in the communication book that he had read in his big reader today. I asked him about what he read and he told me great detail of the story for the first time. Like he actually coperhended what he read. He talked about how story had a fire truck and all about a fire and how they put the fire out.

His communication and thought process has opened up so much on this new medications. The signs of his Aspergers and ADHD are still there but not as noticeable.

Jacob has been doing so great on his medicine. I don't like the way it has changed some of his moods but I can live with it if it means he can concentrate and try at things. Today is the first day of his 2nd grade year at school. His sister is starting school today too in k. So now instead of just having him to get ready for school which by the way has always been a challenge, I have to get his sister up. I was so proud of him this morning. He for the first time got his self dressed even his socks and all I had to do was help with the shoes. He didn't wine or throw a fit. He couldn''t get something like the button on the shirt he asked rather than giving up. That helped me out alot being I had to get her hair done and help her get dressed otherwise. I walked them to the bus and he even showed her some affection by holding her hand as they crossed the street to get on the bus. Thats good on his part considering he ain't much for touching people or making passive affection on his part. I just hope he does good at school today. The real test will be when he gets home and we see if he actually does his homework without it being world war 3 to get him to do his homework.

My child with his Aspergers has ADHD. He isn't so much hyper but has trouble concentrating. He has struggled in school and in everyday life. He will not try to learn stuff like riding a bike without training wheels because that requires more attention than his brain can stand. I wanted to take him and get him medicine cause I know it can help. His father however feels differently. His argument is he don't want his son taking a medication everyday. I know as a person who suffers from a mental disorders how it feels to have a brain that hops from task to task. Makes life difficult. I know Medication helped me. I want Jake to be able to play sports and do his school work and be sucessful in life in general. So I took him to the doctor yesterday. We have options. The traditional drug is a stimulant. It has side affects such as decreased appitite and weight loss. Jake already is a very selective eater and is very slim but tall. So she felt as it would hurt him more than benefit him. So we decided to go with a drug thats not a stimulant. It would treat his attention span and help with his anxiety. So now its about getting the dosage right.

I recently put something on facebook that I suppose offended my aunt about my son. I have not really put anything about Jake on facebook since the diagnoses. Not sure how to explain it I guess. The other night I posted that My Aspie child and his science amazes me. Well she proceded to comment whats that. So I proceded to explain it. She later text me to say that I needed to read all about it and that he could be successful and that it was wrong to label him at Aspie. I love my aunt and always respect others opinions but I disagree. Yes my child who is seven has Aspergers disorder with ADHD. Yes thats a fact and for 7 years I have struggled with him not knowing why he was so different than my other two children. I have read all I can and I have talked with his doctors. I am also trying to connect with other parents. I got Aspie after connecting with a support group and connecting to adults with this disorder. I used it not to Label my child but to explain him and to open dialoge about him. I see it as A girl or boy or my name is such and such or I have diabetes. Life is full of labels. I use Aspie though spareingly and few and far between.

Today it is raining. Maybe its an affect on Jacobs mood. He is so full of no expression this morning. He is ignoring everyone. Winning. Currled up holding legs. Watching the rain out the window. Not his usual smiling face. Its days like this that are difficult. If he is hurting or upset about something well he sure isnt gonna share it with me. I tried to hold him and he pushed me away. I wish fso bad sometimes I could relate to what his happening in his mind.

Jacob has this facination with rewinding shows or movies. Sometimes he plays shows or movies over and over or he picks points to constantly rewind to. Today we are now off Sponge Bob and onto cake Boss. He has been watching it over and over at constant. Gotta love it though even though I know it drives his dad crazy. Jake is thankful for DVR I guess and that we pay extra for it.

Jacob had his first sleep over these past three days. He got in a little bit of trouble but no melt downs. I came to pick him up today and he acted as if he didn't care. He wouldnt hug me, hardly look at me or talk to me. I had to try and hug him but he just stood there with no effort back. He seems to have little intrest in his brother and sister comming with me. I just look at him playing the gane with his friend and see the distance and lack of connection. I know there are good days and days he is distant. I know though that there will be a time when he interacts with me on his terms and thats what keeps from breaking my heart.

Yesterday my child Jacob was diagnosed. with AS and ADHD. After 7 years of his struggles I finally have relief in knowing why he is different. I can now recieve treatment and more help through the school. His biggest struggles are making friends, communication, getting stuck on topics, attention span and dealing with crowds. He can be loving but its on his terms. I feel as though he has a world of his own and everyone else just exist it in. I feel Jake and I are distant at times. Thats hard on me. He struggles to be able to pay attention which affectes schooling and ability to play sports. He has big intrest in Log trucks or Big trucks and motors. After the Diagnosis yesterday I have been researching all I can. I have never heard of this but had always felt he had some form of Autism. I have always been active in treatments fir him. I am looking to connect with parents with kids like Jacob. So this is reason for starting a blog.