Y'know, sometimes in the midst of my chidren screaming, resisting doing stuff, and just plain, misbehaving, my wife and I wax philosophical about how their misbehavior may actually be consistent with that of typical children their age. And isn't that a relief? Don't we feel so much better knowing that our kids may be acting like typical children? Yes. Yes, we do.
Then the kids actually find ways to increase the volume.
And why yes, that DOES feel like a migraine coming on.
And yes, yelling at them - ineffective as it may be - suddenly seems like it might make ME feel a bit better, if only temporarily.
I haven't. Well.... yet.
And I have to also remind myself - If this IS typical misbehavior, then we - as parents of kids with special needs - have one advantage that parents of typical kids don't have.
And then I laugh.... Maniacally.
Kids, I love you.