Is it wrong to envy other families children and the normalcy that they posses?
This being my first child I had certain expectations of what parenthood was going to be like, and in some ways these expectations were met. However there are things that we as parents of autistic children are experiencing that are unlike that of other parents. Everyday i am learning new ways to revel in those differences, and appreciate the fact that I have a daughter that is unlike her peers. In some ways their lives seem mundane, or average. And at times I find myself overtly happy that our life is somewhat different, but their are times that I am envious of other families. And i find myself at a crossroads wondering if it is altogether wrong to be envious of what they have.
It are is very normal to
It are is very normal to morn the normal child that you had hoped for. So many of our kids have normal births and seem so very on track in the very begining. We morn as other kids hit mile stones, driving dating and all the others. I have to keep my focus on what is normal for my son. I am greatful he still belives in Santa and I don't have to worry about him driving and drinking ect. This Chrismas he wants candy and wallpaper books. I am blessed.
Orange Blossom What is the
Orange Blossom
What is the point of stressing? Envy is wrong. It is your family - they deserve to be recognized each and every member. There will always be a crossroad. Wondering if...but if isn't an option, is it? The positive is to revel and appreciate.
How old is your daughter?
My daughter is 4
My daughter is 4
I think it's just a normal
I think it's just a normal part of the 'mourning' (so to speak). Don't be hard on yourself - we all go through it!
Hugs!!
I guess that I am learning
I guess that I am learning that our definition of normal isnt what everyone elses would necessarily be. And that to a certain extent we do all go thru that.
Orange Blossom What is
Orange Blossom What is normal anyway?
At 4 your daughter is still yours- wait til she enters the school system and she becomes just another special needs child complete with IEP, professionals/teachers. They have an interest in her believe in that, but they are paid and go home each day; just like anyone else doing a job.
Our boy was helped in so many ways - potty training for instance. Socialization and speech all come into play. Have you investigated your school system to see what they offer? They should be obliged to start education at age 3. They must in this state.
Our boy has come a long way - now in high school. It isn't an easy road but no one said it could ever be. You must be diligent and know you are her best support.