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Posted June 18th, 2008 by shootingstars

I am beating myself against a wall. Michael will not poop in the toilet. He has only had one pee accident in a long time and that was at the park and no bathroom. But for all I try he will not poop in anything but his unders or pants. I tried telling him that he is a big boy now and has to poop in the potty like Mommy. Nothing I do seems to work :(

I was there when my son was

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On June 18th, 2008 Jenib487 says:

I was there when my son was younger. I too thought I was going to loose my mind. It was the one thing he knew he could control. I put him in his room one day because he threw something and when I let him out of his room he was brown from head to foot and all over the floor walls and even the celling! It took two of us hours to clean him and the room.  When he did it again I made him clean the room and no warm bath but  a  shower which he did not like  it took a while but in time we had stopped the poop issue Granted he was 6 but he had to know we were the ones in control even with the bathroom issues. They were long hard days and  nights  but consistency is the key. hang in there good luck . The bathroom issues are hard because we get looked on as bad parents if we can't get our kids  trained but it is most hard on our kids

 Boy...do I know that

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On June 18th, 2008 turmangirl says:

 Boy...do I know that pain!  The problem is that he has learned to poop in his pants and so THAT is how he thinks it should be done...Went through this with Trinity.   She would PLEAD for pull ups when she had to go.  The good news is....after persistence, and a LOT of it, she finally learned to go in the potty.  I would sit with her in the bathroom...a lot.  You have to just keep on and on and on.  Wish I could tell you it is easy.  As you know, it's not.  Many autistics have bowel issues. Don't lose heart..Hang in there.  

Holly would Michael

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On June 18th, 2008 Cindy says:

Holly would Michael understand it if you said if he

pooped in the potty you'd take him to buy a

favorite toy? See with Marcel that wouldnt really

work because we cant tell how much he understands.

But it just might with Michael. Also when I was a

kid that big hole in the toilet scared me (yes I

remember being that little lol) I remember being

in diapers and Im 46 years old. Anyway I thought I

would fall in. Maybe he's afraid he'll fall in.

I do have one of those

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On June 18th, 2008 shootingstars says:

I do have one of those little seats to put over the toilet for him. I just wish ther was somthing to get him going. Bribes no longer work :(

mmmmm doesnt bribery work

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On June 18th, 2008 Cindy says:

mmmmm doesnt bribery work for everybody lol??

Okay so you have the little toilet seat cover......

there's GOT to be something he REALLY wants.

Is it that he cant relax? Or could you dump the

poop from the diaper into the potty and you guys

sing a song or something like Bye Bye Poop lol.

You could make up a song. You could make him a special

shirt that says he's a big boy.... there's got to be

something. Too bad you dont have another boy

about his age who can show him how its done.

 

Michael is only in underwear

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On June 18th, 2008 shootingstars says:

Michael is only in underwear now, and they go traight to the tub when he poops. He holds it when at school/therapy or out and about. Which caused a huge backup which took a week of Miralax to force out... He just will not tell me when he has to go, and gets bored sitting on the toilet. I have tried books, electronic yahtzee, nothing keeps him there.

We all agree he needs a guy to show him how it is done. But Daddy is 6 hours away and no idea when he will be down. My brothers are in Cali. And I justy do not feel comfortable with other guys in the bathroom with Michael. Too many pervs out there.

Having to unlearn anything

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On June 19th, 2008 turmangirl says:

Having to unlearn anything is difficult for anyone...now, multiply that by 100 and we might know how hard it is for one of these angel children.  Unfortunately sstars, you will be the one to show him...Miralax is a good way to establish a routine with him.....give it to him daily and after a meal, make a trek to the bathroom .  Prepare ahead of time and make this a daily task.  After all, he knows how this works, he just doesn't want to do it.   Been there.  My girl still puts off going.   I can tell sometimes because of her stemming.  It increases when she needs to go.  Be matter of fact with him about the daily bathroom time.  Don't back down.  Being firm is important.  Plan to do his favorite outside entainment  when he is finished.  That will do BOTH of you good.   Don't lose heart.   

Yesterday, Trinity spent 2 hours sitting on the toilet.  She did this on her own.   It just takes her more time than typical children.  As a matter of fact, she will ask for some privacy now..I love that.  I check in on her and give her her space.   Shes come a LONG way!  You will get there too!!! 

I agree with the perv

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On June 18th, 2008 Cindy says:

I agree with the perv problem ugh. Okay then how about

straight from the underwear to the potty instead of

the shower? And we all need fiber. If you can get him

to eat something with fiber it'll help him poop.

Maybe he's embarressed? I know he likes yogurt

and corndogs. Can you get something with fiber in

him? There's a yogurt with fiber now. Oh these

kids keep us on our toes for sure!!

My husband lives for

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On June 26th, 2008 WyattsMom says:

My husband lives for fiber!  We get those 14g fiber whole wheat tortillas and Orowheat Double Fiber bread (Wal-Mart $2.50).  Fiber One makes a very high fiber granola bar (chocolate, peanut butter, etc.)  Unfortunately, their stuff has Aspartame in it, but if you don't mind that then no problem.  Cheerios and tons of other breakfast cereals are pretty good for that.  Sun Chips also. 

The only problem with a lot of this high fiber stuff is that it is usually wheat-based.  If you have been trying to get away from wheat products for a Gluten Free diet, then you'll have to look toward beans and other non-bready sources of fiber.