As my son goes into adulthood and we are getting older, I am trying to be a responsible parent.  I have set up our wills and have found no one to accept the overseeing of my son. I am an only child and my husbands family were not very supportive of our adoption of Chris so I know none would step forward. My son is an only child. He was a difficult child to raise and we thought of adopting again but, Chris took so much of our time we did feel it would  be fair to bring another child into that kind of turmoil.  Since my own battle with breast cancer I have become more aware of how time is passing . My mom has set up her will and since she is an only child everything has been left to me. I have gone to a workshop on setting up a trust. I have read that my son could lose all his important  supports if he received anything from my Mom's estate. I know it would be the same if we left him our estate. My main concern is that my son be well cared for when we are no longer here. We are not wealthy but have a home, life insurence ect.  I will find someone to help me with the trust but my only stumbling block is to find some one to over see the funds. We have some close friends but they have children of their own. I will continue to focus on getting things set up but I have great concern for my son when we are nolonger here to make sure he is being cared for.      Any one with any ideas are welcome